Research indicates that these skills and strategies can be learned with practice and empower people for success whenever they are applied.
Emotional competence can be described as having two sides:
intrapersonal (inside, self) and interpersonal (relationships).
In practice, at Equilibrium Dybnamics we also found that Emotional Competence skills operate in three separate but overlapping dimensions.
Each dimension involves skillful coordinating of feelings, thinking, judgment and action to get the results you want.
Instant Response (1st Dimension): Operates continuously whenever an immediate response is required:
This can be anything from an icy road, to “What seat am I going to choose?” as you walk into a room, a surprise phone call or a personal insult.
It requires you to coordinate what we call the ‘Big Four’ for a fast response,
In the Considered Response (2nd Dimension): you must balance your attention between a focus on short term and long term views to achieve the ‘Best Result for Now and Later.’
For this you can use the EQD 10-step Feeling Management tool. It begins with a pause.
You use that pause to analyze the event, then identify and process the feelings.
The Considered Response is useful in complex situations where an instant response will not be enough to prevent missteps.
Finally, the Developmental Response (3rd Dimension): is our lifelong personal and professional growth in response to our experiences.
We present it as a 5-step progressive cycle.
Reflection and Feelings
As you move through life, you can use these emotional tools to continually develop your Emotional Intelligence skills. This allows you to build in new knowledge [from each experience of applying your skills./every time you apply your skills.]
You can read more about the EQD Three Dimensions of Emotional Competence in our Curriculum Books.